Okay, let’s be real. If overthinking were an Olympic sport, some of us would have a gold medal, a sponsorship deal, and our own reality show by now. We’ve all been there, spiraling over a “k” text, decoding emojis like we’re the FBI, and rereading messages like it’s our full-time job. But babe, it’s time to stop the madness before you drive yourself (and your boo) absolutely insane. Here’s how to put the brakes on the overthinking train and actually enjoy your relationship.
1. Stop Reading Between the Texts
He said, “Cool.”
You: “OMG, is he mad? Is he bored? Does he hate me?”
Reality: He probably just thinks it’s… cool. Sometimes, a word is just a word. If you’re constantly dissecting every message like it’s Shakespearean literature, take a breath. Not everything has a hidden meaning, and not every “k” is a declaration of war.
Quick Fix:
If you’re confused by something, just ask. A simple “Hey, just checking in, did you mean [insert your worry]?” can save you a week of mental gymnastics.
2. Get a Grip on Your Inner Narrator
You know that little voice in your head that’s like, “He’s probably texting his ex right now” or “She’s totally losing interest”? Yeah, she’s a liar. Your brain loves to fill in gaps with dramatic fiction. Time to unfollow her.
Quick Fix:
When your mind starts spiraling, ask: “What evidence do I actually have?” If the answer is “literally none,” let it go.
3. Schedule Your Overthinking (Yes, Really)
Weird advice? Maybe. Effective? Absolutely. Give yourself 10 minutes a day to let your brain do its overthinking thing. Get it all out. Then, when the time’s up, it’s done. Bye-bye, worry.
Quick Fix:
Set a timer. Journal it out. Voice-note your bestie. And when the timer goes off, move on. You’ve given the anxiety its moment, now it can sit down and be quiet.
4. Stop Assuming You’re a Mind Reader
Hate to break it to you, but you’re not Professor X. You can’t read minds, and you don’t know what someone is thinking unless they tell you. Assuming the worst only feeds the monster.
Quick Fix:
Communicate. Groundbreaking, I know. But honestly, just ask them how they’re feeling. You’ll be amazed at how much clarity a simple convo can bring.
5. Focus on What You Can Control
Spoiler: You can’t control their feelings, responses, or their friend’s cousin’s random Instagram comment. But you can control how you react.
Quick Fix:
Shift focus. When you’re spiraling, ask: “What can I actually do about this?” If the answer is “nothing,” it’s time to move on. Go for a walk, binge your favorite show, or finally start that hobby you’ve been thinking about since 2021.
6. Remember: You’re a Catch (Don’t Forget It)
Overthinking often comes from insecurity. But newsflash: You’re amazing. If someone is lucky enough to be with you, they probably know it too.
Quick Fix:
Hype yourself up. Write a list of things that make you an awesome partner. Read it when you’re doubting yourself. Bonus points for saying it out loud in the mirror. (Yes, it feels awkward. Yes, it works.)
Final Thoughts (Because We All Need a Pep Talk)
Overthinking is like that toxic ex, it sneaks back in, ruins your vibe, and doesn’t pay rent. But you’re stronger than your spiraling thoughts. The key is awareness, communication, and a little bit of self-love. You’ve got this. And if all else fails? Text your bestie, grab some snacks, and let yourself laugh about how your brain tried to convince you that “k” meant heartbreak.
Because, girl, it’s never that deep.