Let’s be real, dating is basically an extreme sport these days. You’re swiping, matching, texting, and then… poof they ghost you faster than your WiFi during a storm. But what if it’s not just them? What if gasp you’re accidentally doing things that send guys running for the hills? Don’t panic. I’m here to spill the tea and help you decode the dating game.
Ready to avoid dating disasters? Let’s dive into the 7 things that secretly turn guys off – and how to stop doing them ASAP.
1. Overthinking Every. Single. Thing.
Girl, if you’re reading his texts like they’re ancient hieroglyphics, it’s time to chill. Analyzing why he used a period instead of an exclamation mark will drive you crazy. Confidence is magnetic, overthinking is… not. Pro tip: Take things at face value and save your detective skills for true crime podcasts.
2. Playing Too Hard to Get
Yes, mystery is sexy, but if you’re acting like an unsolvable riddle, he’s going to lose interest. There’s a fine line between being a challenge and being a brick wall. Flirt a little, show some interest, and let him know you’re not a robot programmed to leave him on read.
3. Constantly Talking About Your Ex
We get it, your ex was a walking red flag with a PhD in disappointment. But if your date knows more about your ex than your favorite pizza topping, it’s a problem. Focus on the present. Talk about dreams, passions, and anything that doesn’t involve your ex’s terrible haircut.
4. Negativity Overload
If your vibe is more “storm cloud” than “sunshine,” it’s a turn-off. Life is tough, but if every conversation turns into a complaint session, it’s draining. Bring some lightness to the convo. Laugh about the chaos. Positivity is irresistible.
5. Being Glued to Your Phone
Unless you’re live-tweeting the date (don’t do that), keep your phone out of sight. Constantly checking your notifications screams, “I’d rather be anywhere but here.” Show some love for the moment, and who knows? He might actually be worth a second date.
6. Oversharing on Social Media
We love a good aesthetic feed, but if every moment of your life is a public broadcast, it can be a red flag. Some mystery is intriguing. Let your Instagram be cute, but don’t let it be a diary. Plus, does anyone really need to know what you had for lunch every day?
7. Acting Like You’re Not Interested (When You Actually Are)
Listen, mixed signals are exhausting. If you’re into him, it’s okay to show it. No, you won’t look “desperate” for replying in less than five hours. Guys appreciate clarity. Playful? Yes. Confusing? No. Let him know you’re vibing, he might just vibe right back.
Final Thoughts
We’ve all been there, accidentally self-sabotaging and then wondering why our dating life feels like a bad rom-com. The good news? Awareness is everything. Ditch these habits, stay your fabulous self, and remember: The right guy won’t be turned off by the real you.
Now go forth and conquer the dating world, one swipe at a time.