Let’s be real, moms are the queens of love, lectures, and “just checking in” texts. One minute they’re your bestie, the next they’re passive-aggressively reminding you that “back in my day, we didn’t need TikTok to have fun.” Love them or low-key side-eye them, your relationship with your mom is one of the most important (and complicated) ones you’ll ever have. But guess what? It doesn’t have to feel like a never-ending reality show. Here are 6 things you can do right now to improve your relationship with your mom (no therapy degree required).
1. Listen Like You Mean It
Shocking, right? But seriously, half of the “you don’t understand me!” drama starts because neither side is really listening. Put down your phone, make eye contact, and actually hear her out. You don’t have to agree with her, but showing that you’re genuinely listening (and not just waiting for your turn to speak) is game-changing. Bonus: She might start doing the same for you.
2. Master the Art of the “Random Compliment”
Nothing softens a mom faster than a spontaneous “You look cute today!” or “Your lasagna could literally win awards.” Moms want to feel seen and appreciated. Sprinkle those compliments like confetti, and watch how quickly the vibe shifts from “tense kitchen standoff” to “mutual admiration society.”
3. Schedule Low-Key Hangouts
You don’t need to book a spa day (unless that’s your thing, in which case, invite me). Sometimes it’s the small stuff, like watching a rom-com together or grabbing coffee. Low-pressure hangouts create space for bonding without the “we need to have a serious talk” energy.
4. Ask About Her Life
Plot twist: Your mom is an actual person with a life outside of reminding you to clean your room. Ask about her childhood, her dreams, her most chaotic 20-something stories. Not only will you get some iconic family tea, but you’ll also understand her better. Plus, people love talking about themselves, it’s science.
5. Set Boundaries (But Make Them Cute)
Yes, boundaries. They’re not just for toxic friendships. It’s okay to say, “Hey, Mom, I love you, but I need some me-time tonight.” The key is to be kind but firm. Think of it as teaching your mom how to be the best version of herself in your life.
6. Send Random “Thinking of You” Texts
A simple “Hey, saw this and thought of you!” text can seriously make her day. Whether it’s a meme, a throwback pic, or a “thanks for putting up with me” shout-out, it’s a small gesture that says, “I appreciate you, even when I’m being a menace.”
Final Thoughts Improving your relationship with your mom doesn’t mean turning into a Hallmark movie character. It just means showing up a little more, listening a little better, and reminding her (and yourself) that you’re on the same team. Plus, having mom on your side is kind of the ultimate power move. So go forth and bond, and maybe text her back first for once.