Girl, let’s be real. If decoding his texts feels like solving a Rubik’s cube while blindfolded, chances are… he’s playing games. And not the fun, “let’s binge Mario Kart together” kind. Nope. We’re talking about the emotionally confusing, mind-bending, “does he like me or is he just bored?” kind of games.
But don’t worry, we’re about to crack the code together. Here’s how to tell if he’s treating your heart like it’s a game of Monopoly (and not letting you pass Go), plus exactly how to handle it like the queen you are.
1. He’s Hot One Day, Cold the Next
One day, he’s sending you “good morning” texts and heart emojis. The next? Radio silence. Girl, is he texting you or ghost-hunting in the Bermuda Triangle?
What to Do: Call it out, calmly but confidently. Say, “Hey, I’ve noticed the mixed vibes lately. If you’re into this, cool. If not, let me know. I’m too cute to be confused.” Period. Either he steps up, or he steps out. Both are a win for you.
2. He Avoids Defining the Relationship
“Let’s just go with the flow.”
Translation: “I like the benefits of dating you but don’t want the responsibility.”
What to Do: You deserve clarity. If you’ve been “flowing” for six months and still don’t know if you’re his girlfriend or just his Thursday-night entertainment, ask the question. If he squirms, that’s your answer.
3. He Only Shows Up When It’s Convenient
If his availability is as random as a TikTok algorithm, that’s not a coincidence. If he’s only around when it suits him, sis, you’re not a priority, you’re an option.
What to Do: Mirror his energy. Stop rearranging your schedule for him. If he really wants to be in your life, he’ll make space for it. If not, you’ll know (and be free to find someone who will).
4. He Keeps You Off Social Media
If you’re dating but his Instagram looks like he’s single and ready to mingle, that’s sus. Is he hiding you or just “not into social media” (but somehow posts every gym selfie)?
What to Do: Bring it up. Not in a “why don’t you post me?!” meltdown, but with a chill, “Hey, just curious, why are we low-key like this?” His response will tell you everything.
5. He Breadcrumbs You
A “like” on your story. A random “Hey” after days of silence. Sis, that’s not affection, that’s crumbs. And you’re not a pigeon.
What to Do: Don’t engage with half-hearted energy. If he can’t bring a full meal to the table, you’re not showing up for snacks. Stop responding and let him wonder why.
6. Your Gut Just Knows
Listen, your intuition is basically a built-in lie detector. If you feel like something’s off, it probably is.
What to Do: Trust your gut. If you’re always second-guessing, that’s exhausting. Relationships should feel secure, not like an unsolved mystery. Choose peace.
The Bottom Line
You’re not asking for too much, you’re asking the wrong person. If he’s playing games, it’s time to take the controller back. Remember, you’re the prize. Anyone who makes you feel otherwise doesn’t deserve a spot on your roster.
So chin up, queen. You’re smarter than his games and stronger than his mixed signals. Now go out there and win, in love and life.
P.S. Share this with a friend who needs the wake-up call, because we don’t let our girls play themselves.