Alright, bestie, let’s talk. If your dating history looks like a collection of red flags, it’s time for an intervention. Why do we keep attracting emotionally unavailable, commitment-phobic, “I’m just not ready for a relationship” guys? Spoiler alert: it’s not the universe testing you. It’s time to break the cycle.
Here are eight game-changing ways to finally attract the right guy, because, babe, you deserve better than his 2 AM “u up?” text.
1. Stop Romanticizing the Bare Minimum
No, sis, he doesn’t deserve a gold medal for texting back within 24 hours. And no, it’s not “so sweet” that he remembers your favorite color. Expect more. The right guy won’t just match your energy, he’ll amplify it.
2. Check Your Energy (Are You Screaming ‘Fixer Upper’?)
If you keep attracting guys who need “saving,” ask yourself: are you playing the role of therapist instead of girlfriend? The right guy doesn’t need to be fixed, he just is.
3. Know Your Non-Negotiables (And Stick to Them)
Write down your absolute dealbreakers and actually enforce them. If “good communicator” is on your list and he ghosted you for a week, why are you still texting him?!
4. Stop Falling for Potential
He could be great. He could get his life together. He could stop flaking on plans. But guess what? He isn’t. Date people for who they are right now, not who they “could” become.
5. Switch Up Where You’re Meeting People
If your type is “men who emotionally drain me,” maybe stop meeting them in places where that energy thrives (aka: dating apps that feel like the Wild West). Try networking events, hobby-based groups, or even getting set up by friends who actually know your worth.
6. Become the Energy You Want to Attract
If you want someone ambitious, kind, and emotionally available, be that. Work on your own confidence, self-worth, and happiness. Nothing attracts the right person like someone who is thriving on their own.
7. Pay Attention to Patterns (And Break Them)
Do all your exes share the same toxic trait? That’s not a coincidence, that’s a pattern. Self-awareness is your best friend. If you’re constantly choosing emotionally unavailable guys, time to ask yourself: why do I keep doing this?
8. Upgrade Your Boundaries (No More ‘Nice Girl’ Syndrome)
Listen, you can be kind and have rock-solid boundaries. The right guy won’t be scared off by your standards, he’ll respect them. Say it with me: “I am not afraid to lose someone who isn’t afraid to lose me.”
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Ready to Attract the Right Guy?
It’s time to stop settling. Which of these tips are you trying first? Drop a comment and share your thoughts (or a dating horror story, I live for those). And if you’re serious about never wasting another minute on the wrong guy, grab the journal and thank me later.