We’ve all been there. You’re vibing, the chemistry is electric, and you’re already daydreaming about cute couple pics for Instagram. Then he hits you with the classic, “I’m not ready for a relationship.” Oh, the audacity! Is it confusion? Commitment phobia? Or is it just… him? Either way, it’s time to put on your queen crown and handle this like the boss babe you are.
Here are 7 ways to deal with Mr. Not-Ready without losing your sparkle.
1. Decode the “Not Ready” Line
Translation: “I like you, but not enough to commit.” Harsh? Maybe. True? Possibly. If he’s giving you mixed signals but still wants all the perks of a relationship without the title, it’s time to ask yourself if you’re okay with that. Remember: you’re not an emotional support dog. You’re a whole meal, not a snack.
2. Don’t Waste Your Prime TikTok Years
Time is precious, and so is your youth. Don’t let someone put you on layaway while they “figure themselves out.” You’re not here for vibes and potential. You’re here for someone who knows your worth and isn’t scared to commit.
3. Set Boundaries Like a Pro
If he’s not ready, that’s his business. But YOUR business is protecting your heart. Be clear about what you want and need. If it’s commitment, say it. If he’s not on the same page, it’s time to swipe left in real life.
4. Flip the Script
Why does he get to decide the timeline? Take back control. Ask yourself if YOU’RE ready for someone who isn’t ready. Newsflash: settling for “almost” is a disservice to your future self. If he can’t match your energy, let him find someone whose vibe matches his confusion.
5. Don’t Romanticize Red Flags
That whole “mysterious, emotionally unavailable” vibe is only cute in rom-coms. In real life? It’s exhausting. If he disappears for days, dodges serious convos, or treats your feelings like optional accessories, it’s a red flag, not a quirky trait.
6. Keep Your Options Open
Why put all your eggs in one maybe-basket? Until he’s ready to step up, keep living your best life. Date, flirt, have fun. You’re not locked into waiting for his lightbulb moment. The right person won’t need time to realize your worth.
7. Know When to Walk Away (and Strut While Doing It)
If he’s not ready now, who’s to say he ever will be? Sometimes the ultimate power move is walking away. Not as a game, but as a way to honor your worth. And trust, there’s nothing more attractive than a girl who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to leave a lukewarm situation.
Final Thoughts? You’re the Prize, Babe.
If he’s not ready, that’s fine. But don’t let “potential” keep you from living your best love life. You’re the main character, the plot twist, and the happy ending all rolled into one. Handle him with grace, confidence, and maybe a killer playlist for your exit strut.
Because you’re not just waiting for love. You’re attracting it.
Now, go out there and be legendary.