Ever feel like you’re apologizing for things that aren’t even your fault? Like, why are you saying sorry for existing? Newsflash: YOU DON’T HAVE TO. Relationships should be about mutual respect, not a never-ending apology tour.
So, grab your iced coffee and let’s talk about 7 times you should absolutely NOT apologize in a relationship.
1. When You Have Boundaries (Because, Hello, You’re Not a Doormat!)
You’re allowed to have boundaries. Full stop. If your partner gets salty because you don’t want to text 24/7 or need alone time, that’s their problem. Healthy relationships respect boundaries, not bulldoze them.
Don’t Say: “I’m sorry, I just need some space.” Say: “I love spending time with you, but I also need some time to recharge. Hope you understand!”
2. When You Say No (Because You’re Not Amazon Prime)
No is a complete sentence, babe. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for not wanting to do something. Whether it’s skipping a party, not loaning money, or just not feeling like it, you’re allowed to say NO without guilt.
Don’t Say: “Sorry, I just don’t think I can.” Say: “That’s not gonna work for me, but have fun!”
3. When You Express Your Feelings (You’re Not a Robot, Right?)
If you’re upset, you’re allowed to be upset. Stop apologizing for being emotional. Your feelings are valid, even if your partner doesn’t get it.
Don’t Say: “Sorry for getting emotional.” Say: “I need to talk about this because it matters to me.”
4. When You Take Care of Yourself (Because You’re the Main Character)
Skipping a date to do a face mask and binge-watch your comfort show? TOTALLY VALID. Prioritizing yourself isn’t selfish, it’s necessary.
Don’t Say: “Sorry, I just need a self-care day.” Say: “I’m taking some time for myself today. Let’s plan something for later!”
5. When They’re the One Who Messed Up (Not Your Circus, Not Your Clowns)
If they forgot your anniversary, made plans without telling you, or said something hurtful, why on earth are you apologizing? Do not carry the weight of their mistakes.
Don’t Say: “Sorry, I guess I overreacted.” Say: “That really hurt me, and I need to talk about it.”
6. When You’re Being Successful (Glow Up and Own It!)
Never dim your light to make someone else comfortable. If they’re feeling insecure because you’re thriving, that’s their problem.
Don’t Say: “Sorry, I didn’t mean to make you feel bad.” Say: “I worked hard for this, and I’m proud of myself!”
7. When You’re Just Being Yourself (Because You’re Awesome, Duh)
You laugh too loud? Talk too much? Love astrology and read your horoscope daily? GOOD. That’s YOU. And anyone who makes you feel bad about being yourself doesn’t deserve you.
Don’t Say: “Sorry, I know I can be a lot.” Say: “This is me, take it or leave it.”
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Your Turn!
Drop a comment: Which one of these are YOU guilty of apologizing for? Let’s talk about it below!