Alright, girlies! We’ve all been there, overthinking every text, reading between the lines, and basically turning into FBI agents trying to decode if he’s genuinely into you or just… well, bored. Let’s break down those mixed signals and finally get some clarity!
1. The Texting Frequency Test
If he’s texting you first thing in the morning, during lunch, and before bed, then yes, your existence is clearly a highlight of his day! But if he only pops up with a “wyd?” at 2 AM… bestie, he’s probably bored. Look for effort, not just availability.
2. Actual Plans vs. “Let’s Chill”
Does he plan real dates? Or is it always a vague “We should hang sometime”? If his idea of spending time with you involves making an effort to plan something special (and not just a Netflix-and-chill situation), it’s a good sign. Otherwise, you’re probably just a convenient option. Ouch, but true.
3. The Future Talk Detector
Is he talking about the future and casually including you in it? Like, “We should totally visit that concert next month” or “I’d love to take you to my favorite coffee spot someday.” If yes, you’re not just a time-filler; you’re on his mind for real! If not, well… you’re probably just this week’s entertainment.
4. Body Language Clues
Watch how he acts when you’re together. If he’s making eye contact, leaning in, and genuinely seems present, that’s a green flag. But if he’s more interested in his phone or seems distant, you’re just another temporary distraction. Next, please!
5. Effort Levels vs. Convenience Levels
If he’s going out of his way to do things for you, like picking you up from work, planning cute dates, or remembering that you mentioned your love for bubble tea two months ago, congratulations! But if he’s only around when it’s convenient for him, you’re definitely not his priority.
6. What Happens When You Pull Back?
The ultimate test. If you stop initiating conversation and he suddenly starts making all the effort, then boom! He’s into you. But if he just… disappears? Yeah, he was probably just bored.
Final Thoughts
Stop overthinking and start observing. Actions speak louder than words, always. And girl, if his actions are screaming “Meh,” then don’t settle. You’re a queen, not a backup plan.
Now, go out there and embrace your fabulousness. And if he’s not giving you the attention you deserve, remember, someone else will.