Girl, it’s time for a reality check. If you’re stuck decoding his every text like it’s the Da Vinci Code, we need to talk. Sometimes, a guy’s mixed signals aren’t cute, they’re just confusing. And spoiler alert: if you’re constantly wondering if he’s into you, he probably isn’t (or at least, not enough). But don’t worry, I’ve got you covered. Here are 6 undeniable signs he’s just not that into you (even if he’s acting like Prince Charming on weekends).
1. He’s a Ghost… But Only on Weekdays
Sure, he texts you at midnight on Saturday asking if you’re “up,” but where is he Monday through Friday? If his attention comes with a time stamp (and that stamp says 1 AM after he’s been out with the boys), he’s not looking for a soulmate. He’s looking for… well, let’s just say it’s not true love.
Action Plan: Stop romanticizing “U up?” texts. If he’s not checking in during daylight hours, he’s probably not checking in with his feelings either.
2. He Talks, But Doesn’t Listen
You could tell him you’re moving to Mars tomorrow, and he’d probably reply with, “Cool, so you’re free tonight?” If you feel like you’re monologuing to an audience of one (who’s not even listening), it’s a red flag wrapped in a red flag.
Action Plan: Drop a random, outrageous fact in conversation. If he doesn’t notice, consider it a sign. You deserve someone who hangs on to your every word, not just your selfies.
3. He’s “Too Busy”… But Always on Social Media
Oh, he “didn’t see your text”? Funny, because he just posted a meme about pizza 10 minutes ago. If he’s got time to scroll, he’s got time to reply. Harsh but true.
Action Plan: Match his energy. If he’s playing the “I’m-so-busy” card, take that as your cue to be busy too, living your best life without waiting around for him to text back.
4. You Feel Like You’re Begging for His Attention
If you’re the one always making plans, always texting first, and basically auditioning for the role of “Girlfriend,” it’s time to wake up. You shouldn’t have to campaign for his affection like it’s a political race.
Action Plan: Pull back and see what happens. If he doesn’t notice your absence, that’s your answer. You deserve someone who’s as excited to see you as you are to see them.
5. He’s Hot and Cold Like a Broken Thermostat
One minute, he’s sweet and attentive. The next? He’s colder than your iced coffee. Mixed signals aren’t cute; they’re exhausting. If his vibe feels more confusing than your high school math class, it’s a problem.
Action Plan: Call it out (gently but directly). If he’s into you, he’ll step up. If he gives you another vague, “I’m just figuring things out” speech, you know what to do.
6. He Avoids Defining the Relationship Like It’s the Plague
If every “What are we?” conversation ends with him pulling a disappearing act, that’s a big neon sign that he’s not serious. If he wanted you to be his, you’d already know it.
Action Plan: Ask yourself: Are you okay with the situation as is, or are you just hoping he’ll change? Spoiler: You’re better off finding someone who knows what they want (and it’s you).
Final Thoughts: Know Your Worth, Girl
Here’s the truth bomb: If a guy is into you, you’ll know. If he’s not, you’ll be confused. It’s really that simple. You deserve someone who shows up, makes an effort, and doesn’t leave you questioning your worth. So if he’s sending mixed signals, maybe it’s time to send your own, like, “Bye.”
You’re not a backup plan, a maybe, or a “when it’s convenient.” You’re the plan. And don’t settle for anything less.
Now go text your bestie, grab that latte, and remind yourself that you’re the prize. Because you are.