Let’s be real: Sometimes talking to your parents feels like trying to explain TikTok trends to a potato. They don’t get why you’re obsessed with memes, why you need 47 selfies to get the one, or why “going outside” isn’t always the vibe. It’s like they’re from another planet (hint: it’s called the 90s). But don’t lose hope, there is a way to bridge the gap, and it doesn’t involve time travel or sacrificing your entire personality.
Here are 6 reasons your parents just don’t get you, and how to finally change that (without losing your mind).
1. They Grew Up Without Wi-Fi
Yeah, imagine living a life where “streaming” meant a body of water and “likes” were just…friends. Your parents didn’t grow up with social media. The idea of making friends online? Terrifying.
How to change that: Show them the positive side of the internet. Share stories about how online communities can be supportive and creative. Maybe even show them a wholesome meme (yes, they exist).
2. Mental Health Was Taboo
For them, “feeling sad” was cured by “going outside” or “toughening up.” Therapy? Only for “serious” problems. No wonder they don’t get your need for self-care days and journaling.
How to change that: Normalize talking about feelings by being open (but not pushy). Explain how mental health is just as important as physical health. Invite them into conversations, but keep it chill.
3. Career Goals Looked Different
Back then, it was college, job, house, done. Now? Influencer careers, side hustles, and “doing what you love” are real goals.
How to change that: Show them examples of people thriving in non-traditional careers. Break down how side hustles can lead to real success. (And yes, explain that being a content creator is actual work.)
4. Different Definitions of Success
They think success is a 9-5 job and a white picket fence. You think it’s freedom, passion, and maybe a remote job from Bali. Clash of the generations? Absolutely.
How to change that: Find common ground by discussing what success means to you. Highlight your values and explain how your goals align with personal happiness and growth.
5. Pop Culture is a Foreign Language
If you’ve ever had to explain who Billie Eilish is (more than once), you know the struggle. They’re stuck on their golden oldies, and you’re vibing to beats they don’t understand.
How to change that: Invite them to experience your pop culture. Watch a trending movie or show together. Let them laugh at a meme (even if they don’t fully get it). Shared experiences can lead to bonding.
6. They’re Just… Scared
Let’s face it: the world is moving fast, and that can be scary. Sometimes their resistance is just fear of the unknown, and a whole lot of love.
How to change that: Reassure them that you’re figuring things out, even if it looks different from their path. Show them you’re thoughtful about your choices, and they might just chill a little.
The Bottom Line
You don’t have to change who you are to get your parents to understand you. You just have to meet them halfway. Sometimes that means explaining things (again), being patient, and showing them you’re thriving in your own way. And hey, if all else fails, there’s always the universal language of cat videos.
Because some things? Everyone understands those.