Girl, we’ve all been there. You just had a fight with your boo, and now you’re either throwing emotional daggers at your phone or scrolling through TikTok hoping for the universe to drop a ‘how to fix your messy love life’ tutorial. Spoiler alert: It’s not gonna happen.
But guess what? I’ve got you covered. Because handling fights like a pro isn’t some mystical power only granted to love gurus and rom-com heroines. Nope! You can totally do it too. And here’s how!
1. Take a Chill Pill (No, Seriously, Breathe!)
I know you’re about to text him a novel about all the ways he just ruined your day. But HOLD UP! Before you go full drama mode, just… breathe. Take ten deep breaths or blast your favorite breakup anthem and dance it out. Anything to cool off before the emotional hurricane hits.
Why it works: Reacting while you’re still mad? Disaster. Giving yourself time to calm down? Total queen move.
2. Don’t Play the Blame Game (Even If You’re Right!)
We all want to be the hero of our own story. But newsflash: Constantly pointing fingers makes you look more like the villain. Instead of saying, “You never listen to me!” try, “I feel unheard when this happens.”
Why it works: It shifts the convo from ‘me vs. you’ to ‘us vs. the problem.’ Much healthier. Plus, you sound way more mature, and that’s a power move.
3. Use Humor to Break the Ice (Unless You’re Dealing With World War III)
Okay, if the fight was super intense, maybe hold off on the jokes. But if it’s something silly, why not lighten the mood with a little humor? Like, “Wow, I’m pretty sure this argument just earned us a gold medal in the Relationship Drama Olympics.”
Why it works: Laughter cuts the tension and reminds you both why you’re in this relationship in the first place. Because you actually like each other. Shocking, I know.
4. Set Boundaries, Not Walls (Big Difference, Babe!)
There’s a fine line between protecting your feelings and building a fortress so high he needs a helicopter to reach you. Instead of shutting him out, let him know what’s bothering you and what you need.
Why it works: Communication. Is. Everything. Setting healthy boundaries shows you respect yourself AND the relationship. Double win!
5. Forgive and Let Go (Yes, Even When It’s Hard)
Look, you’re not Elsa, but you’ve got to learn to let it go. Holding onto grudges is like carrying emotional baggage that’s just gonna weigh you down. Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting, it means choosing your peace over pettiness.
Why it works: It allows you to heal and move forward without all the emotional clutter. Plus, it shows you’re mature enough to prioritize love over ego.
Final Thoughts
At the end of the day, relationships aren’t about never fighting. They’re about fighting better, together. So next time you’re tempted to throw your phone out the window or declare yourself the drama queen of the year, try these tips instead. You might just surprise yourself.