You know that feeling when you post a fire selfie, but then spiral into an overthinking black hole because no one’s liked it in 10 minutes? Yeah, we’ve all been there. Confidence can feel like that flaky friend who shows up late (or not at all) when you need her most. But plot twist: some of your everyday habits are low-key ruining your vibe. And the worst part? You probably don’t even realize it.
But don’t stress, bestie. We’re about to expose these toxic habits so you can ditch them and glow up, mentally and emotionally. Let’s dive in!
1. Comparing Your Life to Everyone’s Highlight Reel
Scrolling TikTok and thinking, “Why am I not living in a boho apartment, sipping matcha, and having my life together by 9 AM?” Newsflash: no one posts their bad hair days or mental breakdowns. You’re seeing their best moments, not their real life. Comparison is the thief of joy, and the destroyer of confidence.
Fix It: Unfollow accounts that make you feel like trash. Curate your feed like you curate your playlist, only good vibes allowed. And remember, you’re not behind in life; you’re just on your own timeline.
2. Apologizing for Existing
“Sorry for bothering you.” “Sorry if this is a dumb question.” Why are we apologizing for breathing, asking questions, or simply existing? If you’re saying sorry more than you’re saying your own name, it’s a red flag for low self-worth.
Fix It: Swap “sorry” for “thank you.” Instead of “Sorry I’m late,” say, “Thank you for waiting for me.” It’s a small change that screams confidence and gratitude.
3. Saying Yes When You Want to Scream No
You don’t have to go to every brunch, answer every text, or help your coworker move just because you feel guilty. People-pleasing is a full-time job that doesn’t pay, and worse, it bankrupts your confidence.
Fix It: Practice saying “no” without a long-winded excuse. No is a full sentence. Bonus: it gives you more time for the things that actually light you up.
4. Waiting for “Perfect” to Take Action
You’re not posting that art, starting that side hustle, or shooting your shot because you’re “not ready” yet? Hate to break it to you, but “ready” is a myth. Perfectionism is just fear dressed up in a cute outfit.
Fix It: Embrace the cringe. Take messy action. Growth comes from doing, not waiting. You’ll cringe now, but you’ll thank yourself later when you’re thriving.
5. Talking to Yourself Like Your Worst Enemy
If your inner monologue is roasting you harder than a group chat, we have a problem. You wouldn’t let a stranger call you “ugly, lazy, or a failure”, so why let your own brain do it?
Fix It: Challenge negative thoughts like you’re arguing in the comments section. Replace “I’m so stupid” with “I’m learning.” Change “I can’t do this” to “This is hard, but I can figure it out.” Speak to yourself like you would to your best friend.
The Bottom Line?
Your confidence isn’t gone, it’s just trapped under a pile of bad habits. But now you know better. And when you know better, you can glow better.
So go ahead, break up with these toxic habits, and watch your confidence make the ultimate comeback. You’ve got this, queen.