Alright, girl. It’s time for some tough love. If you’ve been overanalyzing his texts, reading into his “maybe” plans, and hoping that his random Instagram likes are secret love notes (they’re not), this one’s for you. Let’s save you from another soul-sucking situationship and get real about the signs he’s just not that into you. Spoiler alert: if you’re reading this, you probably already know. But let’s confirm it, shall we?
1. He Texts You Back… Eventually… Like Next Week
If his texting game is slower than your grandma’s WiFi, it’s not because he’s “just busy.” No one is that busy. If he leaves you on read longer than it takes to binge-watch an entire Netflix series, he’s not prioritizing you. Remember: if he wanted to, he would. Period.
Action Tip: Stop double-texting. Stop “just checking in.” Let him wonder where you went for a change.
2. His Plans Are More Flaky Than a Croissant
“Let’s hang out sometime” is not a plan. If he’s always “seeing how the week goes” or “might be free” (but somehow never is), guess what? He’s keeping you as a backup plan. You’re not an afterthought, you’re the thought. If he can’t commit to Taco Tuesday, how is he going to commit to you?
Action Tip: Set your standards. If he’s not making real plans, make real plans for yourself, without him.
3. You Feel Like You’re Doing All the Work
If you’re the one always reaching out, initiating hangouts, and keeping the convo alive, girl… you’re dating yourself. Relationships are like TikTok dances: it takes two to make it cute. If he’s not matching your energy, he’s probably not feeling it.
Action Tip: Pull back. Give him a chance to notice the silence. If he doesn’t? There’s your answer.
4. He Talks About Other Girls (And Not in a “You’re Better” Way)
If he’s constantly mentioning how “cool” Sarah from work is or how his ex “wasn’t that bad,” he’s sending smoke signals that he’s not focused on you. You deserve someone who’s hyping you up, not making you feel like an auditionee in The Bachelor.
Action Tip: Redirect that energy to someone who thinks you’re the main character. Because you are.
5. Your Gut Just Knows (And It’s Screaming!)
Let’s be real: your intuition is smarter than you think. If you feel like he’s pulling away, acting weird, or just not vibing, trust that feeling. Don’t gaslight yourself into thinking you’re “overthinking.” Your gut knows. Listen to it.
Action Tip: Write down how you really feel after seeing or talking to him. If the vibe feels off more than on, it’s probably a sign.
The Final Tea:
Sis, you are a whole snack, a meal, and the chef. If he’s not treating you like the prize you are, let him go. There’s someone out there who will match your energy, love your weirdness, and actually text back before you forget what you asked. Until then, focus on you, because you’re already worth it.
And if you’re still unsure? Just remember: if you have to ask, you already know.