You know the type. He texts just enough to keep you hooked but never makes an actual effort. He acts all charming when he needs validation but disappears when you need him. If this sounds familiar, congrats! You might just be his emotional crutch. But don’t worry, we’re about to drop some wisdom (and a little sass) to help you see the red flags waving in your face.
Let’s dive into the 10 signs he’s just using you for attention , and what you can do about it!
1. He Only Texts When He’s Bored
You haven’t heard from him in days, but suddenly, there he is. “Hey, what’s up?” Girl, he’s not interested in you, he’s just bored and looking for a distraction. If he wanted to be with you, he’d be consistent.
What to do: Leave him on read and go binge-watch your favorite show instead. He’s not worth your time.
2. He Never Makes Plans
He loves talking, flirting, and making you feel special, but when it comes to actually meeting up? Suddenly, he’s “busy.” Honey, he’s not busy, he’s just not prioritizing you.
What to do: Stop making yourself available for someone who treats you like a backup plan. You’re the main event, not the intermission.
3. He Loves the Chase, Not the Catch
He was all over you when you first started talking, but now that you’re actually into him? Crickets. He only enjoys the thrill of knowing he can get your attention whenever he wants.
What to do: Reverse the roles. Pull back, and watch him panic. If he really cares, he’ll step up. If not, bye-bye, emotionally unavailable man-child.
4. He Only Compliments Your Looks
Does he ever say you’re funny? Smart? Talented? Or is it always about how hot you look? If he only cares about the aesthetics, he’s treating you like an Instagram trophy, not a person.
What to do: Demand more! Your personality deserves just as much hype as your selfies.
5. He Flirts with Other Girls (Right in Front of You!)
If he’s DMing other girls, liking thirst traps, or even straight-up flirting while you’re right there, he’s keeping his options open. Translation? He’s not committed to you.
What to do: Unfollow, block, delete. You deserve undivided attention, not to be one of many.
6. He Ghosts You, Then Comes Back Like Nothing Happened
One week he’s texting non-stop, the next he’s MIA. Then, out of nowhere, he pops back in like “Hey, miss me?” No, Chad. We did not.
What to do: If he disappears without explanation, let him stay gone.
7. He Makes You Feel Like You’re Overreacting
Ever told him how his behavior hurts you, only to be met with “Wow, you’re being dramatic” or “Chill, it’s not that deep”? Classic gaslighting move.
What to do: Trust your gut. If it feels off, it is off.
8. He Talks About His Ex All the Time
If his ex’s name comes up more than your own, you might just be his rebound therapist.
What to do: Politely (or not-so-politely) remind him that you’re not a free therapy session.
9. He Keeps the Relationship “Undefined”
He doesn’t want a label, but he still expects all the perks of a relationship? Girl, he wants commitment from you without giving any in return. That’s a no from us.
What to do: If he can’t define what you are, define it yourself: DONE.
10. He Drains Your Energy Instead of Adding to It
A good relationship should feel uplifting. If talking to him makes you anxious, insecure, or exhausted, he’s an energy vampire and needs to go.
What to do: Invest in people who lift you up, not drain you dry.
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Final Thoughts: Drop the Trash, Elevate Your Standards
If you saw yourself in any of these signs, take it as your wake-up call. You deserve someone who adores you, not someone who uses you for attention.
Which sign hit you the hardest? Spill the tea in the comments! And don’t forget to grab your Glow Queen kit, your future self will thank you.